I’m approaching a milestone birthday soon. One that in all honesty I feel privileged to have reached knowing that some don’t. It’s giving me pause for thought. Last week in the kick off of my September cohort for the Clarity & Confidence programme, one person recognised that the person she was 4 years ago wouldn’t… Read more »
Do you ever have those moments when you’re presenting or having an important conversation with someone senior in your organisation, and you start to lose the thread? You suddenly become more aware of what you’re thinking (those self doubt distractions) than what’s happening in the room. It can be a disconcerting feeling – and it… Read more »
You might recognise this. You are capable, committed and experienced, yet in certain moments you do not feel confident. You hesitate. You wait for more information. You feel less ready than you would like. These moments can be frustrating, especially when you know you can do what is being asked of you. This blog introduces… Read more »
A teacher once wrote in my primary school report that I would never get anywhere if I didn’t stop worrying and being a perfectionist. Or words to that effect. I can still remember how deeply hurtful it felt at the time. I think she meant well. I hope she did. I was just trying to… Read more »
I was due to attend a local networking event this morning but it quickly became clear that was not going to happen because the rain has been so continuous that my village is cut off due to flooding. What it has meant however is the opportunity to work further on my new programme that will… Read more »
‘Helen will never get anywhere in life while she carries on being a perfectionist’. This is a sentence I remember from my school report when I was about 10 years old a year or two before starting secondary school. This is one of many labels I carried as a child; labels given to me by… Read more »
Do you find yourself giving way to others’ wishes or suggestions even when you’d rather do something differently or decide on a different way forward? Giving away what you’d like in order to please others or to keep the peace is a surprisingly common issue brought to coaching sessions by some of my clients and,… Read more »
Image by Magnascan from Pixabay As the holiday season fast approaches, I am reminded of the messages in Christmas carols that hold meaning not just for this time of year but all year round whether we have religious beliefs or not, messages of peace, goodwill, glad tidings and joy. Sadly, with the recent general election… Read more »
Image by Andrew Martin from Pixabay Do you ever find yourself holding back from saying what you think to people in authority? Have you ever decided against having a conversation because you don’t think your needs are important relative to the other person? Perhaps you’ve known you need to give feedback to a team member… Read more »
In last month’s blog I shared some tips on how to adapt perfectionist tendencies so that they work for you rather than against you. I focused on thinking errors and what you can do to correct these and find perspective. In this month’s blog I focus on how you can practice overcoming behaviours common to… Read more »
